A cult, by definition, is a social group that is defined by its unusual religious, spiritual, or philosophical beliefs and rituals, or its common interest in a particular personality, object, or goal. The family would fit the definition unless you grew up in a home where your parents had healed all of their childhood woundings. Healed parents happen so seldom, yet most of us are not even aware of how much childhood trauma/wounding we carry as what we grew up in is our normal.

For a moment, look back at what you remember of your childhood and ask yourself if you were given a voice to what name you went by, where you wanted to live, go to school, how to be schooled, freedom to choose activities, or quit them when you no longer liked them or were interested in them? Did you grow up in a family where you were never left to cry and never experienced physical, emotional, or sexual abuse? Are your childhood memories clear and accurate, or do you have little to no childhood memories other than the repeated stories that you now believe to be true? Were you brought up to understand you had wants and needs? Were you able to voice them and know you would be listened to and confident they would be met? Did you begin making choices and decisions with guidance only when needed, or where most of your decisions made or influenced by your family? Were your parents present? Did you feel safe at all times? Were you loved unconditionally (meaning that there were no conditions on the love you were given and no expectations of you being perfect or not having mishaps in childhood?

If you answered no to a few or more questions, you were raised in a home with a hierarchy of the parents at the top making all the decisions and choices and the children underneath. There is a strong possibility that you were raised in an authoritarian home, some of you in addictive (alcohol/drugs/eating disorders), narcissistic or abusive homes. While it may be a new term, by definition, cult works. These are not healthy homes nor unconditionally loving.

First, this isn't a healing program. To heal the wounds that we have from being raised in unhealthy family systems, I suggest the work of Liana Shanti. Her mother wound, father wound, and healing from narcissism are core wound healing programs. There is no need for me or anyone else to duplicate what thousands of us know works.

This program can be another tool if you're still healing these core wounds, but it won't help you heal. This program will give you tools and information on how to move forward. This program will guide you if you're uncertain how to cut ties with your family, relationships, or adult children.

In my own experience and in guiding others, having tools that will show you what I and many others have done to move on with our lives safely, setting boundaries and holding to them, beginning to trust our decision making, and becoming healthy, independent adults is important. It is the biggest step to freedom, sovereignty, and having the life you've always dreamed of. Some of you may want to walk away from birth families, others from relationships you're in, and for some of you, it will be both. Some may want the information for down the road, and others may want guidance on setting boundaries without being drawn in. If that aligns with you, then this program will offer guidance on doing whatever works best for you now.

As I learned from Liana many years ago, leaving the family systems we were engrained in, knowing what family cult means, and moving on is no joke. The system/cult does not want us to leave, and they will pull out all the stops, from verbal threats to physical threats to attacks on social media, threats to take your children, financial threats, and in some cases, threats to people you care about. I have experienced most of these and have guided others who have experienced them all. It takes courage to leave, and this program gives practical tools to do that.

No. This program, Family Cult recovery, is not a healing program. I would recommend you do some healing first to gain the most insight. Your wounds do not need to be healed to do this program. This program is to open dialogue about family cults and dysfunctional families versus healthy families. I will give you tools, strategies, and resources to help you decide how you want to live your life. Do you want to stay in the toxicity, choose to leave your birth family, or the relationship you are in that is continuing the toxic lineage, affecting you and your children if you have them?